Hey there! So, let’s dive into a topic that can sometimes feel a bit sticky but is oh-so-important: self-worth.
We all have our quirks and quirks when it comes to how we perceive ourselves, and yes, those internal narratives can sometimes hold us back like a bug caught in a spider web.
Whether it’s in our personal relationships or professional lives, these limiting beliefs can manifest in surprising ways.
In this blog post, we’ll chat about some of the most common limiting beliefs regarding self-worth and how you can shake them off using a nifty technique called EFT tapping.
Ready? Let’s go!
What the Heck Are Limiting Beliefs?
Before we jump into the common beliefs that might be tripping you up, it’s essential to first understand what limiting beliefs are.
Simply put, limiting beliefs are those pesky thoughts or opinions we hold about ourselves that restrict us in some way.
They can derail our confidence and lead us to make choices that don’t serve our highest good.
For example, if you think, “I’m not skilled enough for this job,” you might hesitate to apply for a promotion, even if you totally have the chops for it!
Common Limiting Beliefs About Self-Worth
Here are a few beliefs that often float around, getting in the way of our fabulousness:
1. “I’m not good enough.”
This classic belief sticks around for many of us, often whispering, “You can’t do that.”
This little gremlin can keep you from pursuing opportunities because you feel like you have to be perfect to even try.
2. “I don’t deserve love or success.”
This is a heavy one. It often roots itself in patterns established in childhood or past relationships, making you feel unworthy of good things.
It can lead you to sabotage your happiness because deep down, you think you don’t deserve it.
3. “I’ll never be as good as my peers.”
Comparing yourself to others can crush your self-esteem faster than you can say “imposter syndrome.”
This belief can lead to a fear of failing or sticking to what you know instead of pushing your boundaries.
4. “I have to please everyone to be accepted.”
Raising your hand if you’ve ever overextended yourself trying to make others happy!
Yep, this belief leads to burnout and neglecting your own needs because you believe your worth is tied to others’ happiness.
5. “Mistakes mean I’m a failure.”
This line of thinking can hold you back from taking risks.
If you equate every slip-up with inadequacy, you’ll likely avoid challenges altogether, limiting your growth and experiences.
How Do These Beliefs Affect Us?
It’s one thing to acknowledge these limiting beliefs, but have you ever considered how they impact your life?
Spoiler: it’s pretty significant.
These beliefs can affect your:
1. Relationships:
If you believe you’re not worthy of love, you might settle for less than you deserve in partnerships. Or, you could push people away, out of fear of being rejected.
2. Career:
Unchecked limiting beliefs can result in missed promotions, job opportunities, or the chance to start that side hustle you’ve been dreaming about.
3. Mental Health:
When you carry the weight of these feelings, you might experience stress, anxiety, or even depression as you constantly battle against what you believe to be true about yourself.
Introducing EFT Tapping: Your New Best Friend
Okay, so now that we’ve toasted the marshmallows of limiting beliefs, let’s talk about how to dismantle them with a nifty technique called Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) tapping.
EFT is a form of psychological acupressure that combines cognitive therapy with tapping on key acupuncture points.
Think of it as a way to unblock those pesky emotional roadblocks.
Many people find that it helps them release negative thoughts and beliefs while promoting self-acceptance.
How to Use EFT Tapping to Address Limiting Beliefs
Step 1: Identify the Limiting Belief
Start by pinpointing the limiting belief you want to tackle. Write it down. For example, if you feel you’re “not good enough,” write “I am not good enough” in bold letters.
Step 2: Accept Your Feelings
Before you tap, acknowledge that this belief exists. You might say out loud something like, “Even though I believe I’m not good enough, I deeply and completely accept myself.” This is crucial because it helps you confront your feelings without judgment.
Step 3: Tap It Out
Using the tips of your fingers, lightly tap on the following points while repeating your statement. Here’s a cheat sheet for the tapping points:
1. Karate chop point (side of the hand)
2. Eyebrow (where the eyebrow starts)
3. Side of the eye (corner of the eye)
4. Under the eye (on the bone)
5. Under the nose (above the lip)
6. Chin (below the lip)
7. Collarbone (where the collarbone joins)
8. Under the arm (about 4 inches below the armpit)
9. Top of the head
While tapping on each point, repeat a phrase that resonates with your belief. So, for our example, you might say, “I am not good enough” while tapping. Perform this for each tapping point.
Step 4: Reassess
After about 5-10 minutes of tapping, reassess how you feel about the belief. Has it softened? If you still feel the weight of it, continue tapping and consider how you might shift your narrative. For instance, start repeating something affirming, like “I am enough just as I am.”
Step 5: Repeat Regularly
Consistency is key! The more frequently you tap on these beliefs, the better your chances of reprogramming your thoughts.
Wrapping It Up
Limiting beliefs about self-worth are like those annoying little flies in summer—persistent and a bit of a nuisance!
But with the right tools, like EFT tapping, you can clear some of that mental clutter and create space for healthier beliefs.
Remember, the journey to self-acceptance is ongoing, and it’s completely okay to have ups and downs.
The core takeaway here is that you can actively work towards dismantling those blocks and step into a more confident, authentic version of yourself that truly deserves all those amazing opportunities life has to offer.
So, why not give EFT tapping a try?
Tackle those limiting beliefs, embrace your self-worth, and who knows what kind of magic might unfold in your life?
Happy tapping!
